What to wear

We ask that everyone arrives in, or changes into, "smart casual" clothes - swinging starts with looking attractive to others. We ask that after 11pm, if going upstairs, that members change into sexier clothing, lingerie, leather or PVC, underwear for men, or alternatively to undress and use a towel. On fetish/BDSM nights we have a dress code of fetish wear - Leather, PVC, Corsets, etc; minimum is all black or towel.

The etiquette: Saying yes, saying no

Most people have come to the club with a view to swinging: people talk to people where there is mutual attraction. Don't hesitate to offer to take things further ("would you like to find a private room?"): equally there is no obligation to say yes (a tactful negative answer is "thank you, but not for the moment".) Couples may well want to say "thank you, but we need to talk about it first, can we come back to you".

Try to circulate, mingle by the bar. Don't sit in a corner and cut yourself off unless you want a quiet time. There's no pressure.

Our first experiences included being told very directly "I really fancy you": it's a bit of a shock to find yourself so directly "on the pull" when you've been in a relationship as a couple for some time. On reflection it's meant nicely and is quite flattering!

Meeting people

You will get more contacts, and offers, if you send out friendly messages - smiles, compliments on peoples dress/appearance, and so on. Our "icebreaker" activities are also designed to help.

Soft swinging

Many people will start by just playing on their own (it's a very sexy environment, and will add another dimension even just to playing with your regular partner). Many go on to "soft swinging", (sometimes quite slowly) where you play with others (cuddling, snogging, possibly oral), but reserve penetration for your own partner. You may prefer to do this in one of the smaller, private, lockable rooms.

Some people then "graduate" to full swinging, often first with another couple (it adds an amazing dimension to your own relationship). This can involve play as two separate couples (usually in the same room) and some play as a foursome (often with some bi play between the girls).

Couples can go on to playing with single men or women (maybe the woman having some extra fun, or as a threesome), and in larger groups in the unlocked playrooms (closer to an "orgy").

In time many people then become more extrovert about playing in more public areas (please not on the pool table) quite an erotic experience for everyone else! Some couples happily stick to not much more than voyeurism. Some males are happy not to play: they'll stand back while their wives play. There are many happy permutations.

Options as a couple

It's important to agree "boundaries" before you arrive. What have you really agreed to do while you are here? There are various possible tensions: finding couples that are a good match can be difficult: arguably the lady makes the final decision (and the man should abide by that): but it can be very frustrating if you fancy one half of another couple, but your partner doesn't feel the same about the other half.

Tensions as a male

You go to a club because you enjoy sex. Suddenly you're with a lot of other males who also enjoy sex, and are presumably rather good at it. Will the women think you match up? In the early days you can get quite tense, which also won't help performance.

Not everyone has a massive endowment, and endlessly repeats. Try not to regard it as an endurance competition. Stick to what you're good at, pay attention to the lady, and enjoy it!

Cleanliness

How can you be sure that the Townhouse is clean? Well, it's been fully decorated before opening, and will be kept in tip top condition. The club is fully cleaned on each occasion before opening. Mattresses are vinyl covered to protect them, with fresh sheets daily on top. All cushions, throws and other soft furnishings are cleaned / washed regularly.

Shaving?

The current trend is for ladies to completely shave off pubic hair. If your man does this for you it can be quite an erotic experience as part of the preparation ritual. Some are willing to brave the safety razor! We're happy to discuss and advise.

Toys & lubrication

Toys, vibrating and otherwise, are welcome. Lube is a good idea, whenever there's any doubt.

Fetish/BDSM

Fetish dress can be very sexy: fetish driven responses (velvet, silk, stockings, shoes……) can be very arousing and sexual. The BDSM experience often involves pain - for some this is arousing in a non-sexual but very powerful fashion - usually achieved through couples playing together who know and trust each other - our Dungeon Masters ensure this is consensual and within boundaries - feel free to watch, participate if you wish,, but appreciate you may find some of this activity quite shocking and challenging on a first experience. Our aim is for an inclusive event, embracing both lifestyles, with a definite erotic component to the evening.
At a practical level please don't close the BDSM room doors.

"Greedy girls"

Designed for our lady members with larger sexual appetites - and men willing to satisfy them! Usually five ladies and twenty five men, the ladies and their wishes are to be respected at all times, safe sex required.