How swinging works from a woman's viewpoint:

NSA sex is fun!- it's hard to imagine a more exciting or erotic way to spend time together - for many a liberated lifestyle is better than monogamy - it spices up your life - no getting bored or frustrated within a relationship - it's much better than affairs, using prostitutes or obsessions with porn on the 'net - well handled it can strengthen your relationship.

There's no need to worry if your guy has a great time - he'll be grateful to you for letting him have a good time, you'll go home together, and possibly have the best sex ever at home afterwards....

Moreover there's no need for your guy to feel insecure if you have a good time..... some guys worry on the lines of 'what if another guy is better endowed, lasts longer, repeats'. They might want reassuring - a good night out doesn't mean you don't want to go home together......

On a first visit to a club, it's a good idea to chat to people- but explain early on in any conversation that 'you might not be doing anything tonight, as it's your first visit' - that way you avoid any risk of being expected to do anything. Generally there's 'no pressure' - people understand that you need to feel your way.

There are no circumstances in which you should feel any pressure to do anything - 'no means no' does always apply. Be as firm and clear as you need with your 'no'. The club management will always support you if someone is being too persistent.

How do you 'proposition' people if you fancy them? Girls make tend to make the running in terms of identifying people you might fancy. It's a good idea to approach them and ask them what they are in to? Often this reveals common interests - and you might ask them 'if they fancy a play', or maybe just say that you might see them upstairs later.

Lots of girls are bisexual (or 'curious'), and swinging is a great way of exploring this further. Again, just ask others what they are looking for, and you may find shared interests.

Part of the thrill is when you get a 'yes' - it's like being back on the pull again! Equally you have to accept occasional rejection - this is usually not 'personal', but simply that different people like different types.

We recommend 'safe sex' - it really is the only wise course of action. Any guy who doesn't want to use a condom shouldn't be swinging - and you are entitled to be absolutely clear about your requirement for safe sex. Don't even consider anything else!

We sell condoms - so there's no excuse for any guy to be unequipped. If you need, or may need, lube, do bring your own or we stock several brands.

Likewise, do bring toys if you want - vibrators are the obvious choice and welcomed.

The 'what to wear' question is a recurrent one. Most girls give considerable thought as to what to wear early on, and a sexy dress or top and skirt works well. High heels, and stockings, work well! Some wear corsets, basques, and leather is always sexy. Later on we ask you to 'dress down' - lingerie is the obvious choice, with a towel over if you are feeling self conscious (we can supply the towel or bring your own). Clothes like 'baby dolls' can be quite flattering, and some ladies like fetish style gear. We used to remind girls to wear their knickers over suspenders for easy removal - but these days leaving the suspenders unattached is quite common, removing this issue! - but select hold ups that don't create a 'muffin top' on each thigh!

Your guy might wear boxers, possibly a thong, or a towel is the easy option. Beware buying skin tight white latex hotpants for your guy, or similar, as it might not create the effect you want!

Any queries - email Olivia - she's always happy to chat to ladies if you give a telephone number in your email